recently, it became necessary for me to say goodbye to a friend who i thought would be in my life forever. for me, it feels like a divorce. although i know the "break-up" was absolutely the right move, i'm fighting some very conflicted feelings.
as i've worked through these feelings the past several days, i've thought about relationships both good and bad. positive and negative. we all have them. why do we hang onto relationships that are toxic? friendship should be easy and fun. our friends should be the ones who lift us up and make us feel special. life is hard. and short. we should embrace the positive and cut out the negative whenever possible.
i'm the kind of person who hangs onto people for life. some might call it loyalty, some might call it desperation. whatever the reason, i'm not used to ending relationships.
so, if i know it was right, why does it feel wrong?
it feels wrong probably because you never thought you would not have this person in your life.
ReplyDeletei let go of a 23 year friendship recently. not an easy decision to come to, but since making it, i have come to realize that it would have been wrong otherwise.
love your blog susan, keep at it and often. not sure how i missed the tybee one, it was fantastic. elizabeth
thanks elizabeth :)
ReplyDeleteOh so hard. Even to let go of people who we're not that close to can be hard. Why? Why do we hang on to people who treat us badly? Good post Susan.
ReplyDeleteSusan, you and I have many things in common. I myself have the same urge to remain loyal to the end...even at the expense of myself and what is better for me. Last year I made the very tough decision to end my relationship with my sister. This was not a decision I took lightly but realized I needed to surround myself with positive and loving people. This decision has never felt "right" to me. However, in the time since, I have not missed her. I don't know the circumstances that lead up to your decision, but I'm sure in the long run you will realize it was the right thing to do. You are a beautiful and loving person and should have that reflected back to you in your relationships!
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